Seize everything.
When I laugh, an inside laugh with maybe an exterior smile, at something because it is just sooo douchey like the murdered out trying to be sports-car with an intentionally low-performing muffler driven by a guy missing shirtsleeves of any kind at first I am myself being a judgmental douche but then the laughter, as opposed to anger or real disdain or serious geo-political criticism of this guys particular brand of gas-guzzling noise-polluting fashion doucheness, makes me reflect on my own judgment, and if I’m going to be consistent then I have to laugh at myself and then I come to some conclusion like “good for him, do what makes you feel good” and then I feel better. Whereas the more serious judgment just makes me feel worse about humanity in general and then nervous about my own engagement in douchey type activity including the judgment itself but not limited to the judgment also of to the going to certain bars wearing shirts with expensive brands on them and the drinking of coffee in particular shops because they are trendy or whatever else, which ends up being this whole really harsh self-inventory taking. And I think this really reveals a more helpful contrapositive of that (Buddhist-capitalist) cliche: “you have to treat yourself generously in order to treat others generously”, which is: “if you don’t treat others generously then you wont treat yourself generously”, and also just laughter is good.
