Seize everything.
sometimes in places where the people are mostly working alone like on their computers at their own personal table with headphones in like this particular and probably in other coffee shops where there’s this huge window out to an interesting part of town or campus and a girl walks by like any girl she could be hideous but the best example is when she’s almost cute and the guys like me are all trying to avoid writing our papers so when there is just like any motion outside I just have to look out the window and when its a female-type motion and particularly a not too fast cycling-female-type motion the look lingers a bit because you know we have to check her out and you already looked up shouldn’t waste that motion and if shes got some borderline cuteness you gotta look at little longer just to know it’s not like a romantic or anything type interest at all its just any excuse for a distraction from writing or studying or whatever then when she is pretty you try to look but not look which never fools anybody except maybe yourself if you happen to be or are intentionally not very bright which happens to be a pretty successful technique for meeting beautiful women and when like a few guys like synchronize in this motion other people in said coffee shop with the big window tend to notice too and so its like this chain reaction and everybody looks because there must be something interesting maybe its the herd instinct to look for a predator or whatever but that doesn’t make it any less weird for the object of the looks and definitely embarrassing for whoever started the chain cause you’ve alerted everyone to this probably not even that cute girl and now everyone knows you aren’t studying very hard or you’ve got some non-clinical ADD going on or worse they think you’re a creep or have low standards which is really not true re the already mentioned non-dirty aspect and even with the really attractive girls its about an appreciation of style or beauty or swagger or whatever aesthetic and really what’s interesting is now the girls in said coffee shop have looked too and they aren’t going to waste that motion either so they check out the girl too in some like competitive are they hot why are these guys looking type hyper-self-aware did these guys check me out when I walked in why haven’t any of them hit on me yet but wait these guys are creeps I don’t want to get hit on thought process and then the girls outside probably notice the rivalish type behavior which makes the coffee shop seem even more like an elitist cliquey community where the girls inside are like almost jealously protecting of these guys cause lets be honest one of the hoped for payoffs of studying in a coffee shop is meeting some other cute artsy type student and there will be some romantic how i met your mom type scenario involving coffee spillage but it’s non-burning and non-staining or at most only a cute symbolic stain or awkward and not creepy in fact adorable clumsyness with one’s words or the aforementioned coffee that just doesn’t happen the same way in bars but how are you supposed to accomplish that connection that when everyone is staring out the window with my headphones in
